July 14, 2011

in love

Tom & I laughed at some person or other on the TV who was insufferably self-absorbed, conceited...

Tom said "reminds me of my family..."

(His family is awful!)

I replied: "Well YOU'RE not like that... But I know I'm a little self-absorbed sometimes."

Tom said "No, you're something different."

I contemplated this for a moment, not knowing what to say.

Then he said: "I am very self-absorbed. I would be more so though if I had never met you."

And I felt one of those deep pangs I feel sometimes, when I really notice Tom, when I forget everything else and really notice him as a person, I remember how I might not have done this properly when we first met... but as the years have gone by now I really think of him in such a conscientious way, that just looking at him can break my heart, and the thought of him not existing hurts me to the core... sometimes it surprises me, I look at him and I think that is not just some guy, I see him as a whole person, I care about what this person thinks of me and what this person feels more than I care about anything else in the whole world... and I know this is love...

5 comments:

Adelnye said...

That is so sweet, for what he said and the way you love him. xx

Miss Tracey Nolan said...

OK. You're killing me lately. Sniff!

Miranda said...

Aww, that's so sweet. I now how you feel. It's strange that we can feel that way about someone else. Love them so completely but we can't do that with ourselves. I think about that sometimes. Doesn't my BF see all the flaws I have? Yet I don't notice his (or they just don't matter). I've been trying hard to see myself as others see me (and ignore the things that I don't like). I think you have a really great husband and you are lucky!

Violet said...

I love that insight you have into who Tom is. That is love, and it's wonderful that you have it.

citygirl said...

Wow.